Not fitting in? Not true.

Spiritual resource to share:  companionship


Let’s just get right to it. If you are dealing with the anxiety of not fitting in (or feeling lonely, displaced, or alienated), there is a remedy at hand.

Counter the reasons for feeling isolated with the infinite reasons for joy
Perhaps you have been labeled as having some medical condition or disability; or an unwanted divorce or death has forced or you to go from married to single; you feel no one likes you or understands you; or your race, sex, orientation, culture, religion, education, family history, politics or values put you at odds with a majority of people in a certain group.

There are lots of seemingly good reasons to feel isolated. But there are infinite ways to counter and finally dismiss the feeling of not fitting in, replacing it with a peace and satisfaction that is natural and normal that leads to satisfying companionship.

Breaking up the destructive patterns of thought with light
Loneliness and isolation can go deep into thought, creating patterns of thinking that need to be rooted out and replaced with the natural force of God’s all-inclusive Love. God, Love’s characteristic is omni-present, so Love is right here, right now. Loneliness and isolation are unknown to God, just as darkness is unknown to light.

Note that ruminating thoughts are like a broken record, suggesting over and over again the same thing. This is key to identifying a self-destructive thought – it is not creative, it is not progressive, it is not comforting. And because of this, we know that it is not of God. The thoughts of God come naturally to us.

But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be entreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy.And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace. James 3: 17

The self-corrective and self-assertive nature of Life and Love
Christian Science teaches that God is Life, and Life asserts itself. Thoughts of Life (or God) are identified by movement, progress, freshness and originality.

God is Truth. Thoughts of Truth establish themselves and are identified by peace, permanence, purity.

God is Love. Thoughts of Love are identified by the harmonizing influence felt in relationships, in our bodies and in our actions. When we accept and yield to God’s government, (or being governed by the laws of God, Love) we can see the likeness of progress, peace, and companionship, etc. everywhere.

Heredity is no basis for feeling isolated
When a destructive pattern of thought enters consciousness, it fights for expression. Self-doubt or disease may try to justify itself by human history. The feeling that your parents/family/ancestors struggled with destructive pattern of thought can be countered by rightly identifying yourself AND others, not as products of ruminating fears, but as solid, progressive and loving reflections of an infinite God.

Never separated from Love
The belief that you can be separated from Life, from Truth or from Love is – at its basis a limited and divisive belief – characteristic of matter. It takes some pretty sneaky and subtle suggestions to believe that a person can operate outside of Life, when a person IS life. The very fact that that person is living is a direct expression of Life! All is Life and Love. The very nature of Love is inclusive.

Happiness is spiritual, born of Truth and Love. It is unselfish; therefore it cannot exist alone, but requires all mankind to share it.

The recurring thought that you are vulnerable or easily influenced (or easily hurt by other’s actions or reactions) can be countered by understanding that there are not many little minds vying for position, but one Mind, governing all Christian Science explains the provable or scientific nature of Love. And it goes further…

A knowledge of the Science of being develops the latent abilities and possibilities of man. It extends the atmosphere of thought, giving mortals access to broader and higher realms. It raises the thinker into his native air of insight and perspicacity.

Infinite possibilities exist now
We can overcome this belief of “not fitting in” which is a cover for the subtle suggestion that life is a series of mishaps, conflicts and dis-ease. God has given us the authority and the intelligence to discern our rightful role in Life.

God has given us not the spirit of fear, but of power and of a sound mind.

Overcome any sense of inferiority or isolation by knowing and being alert to any claims of limitation and division AND by knowing the superiority of Life, of Truth and of Love.

Remember Jesus' words, "The kingdom of God is within you." This spiritual consciousness is therefore a present possibility.

Infinite ways to experience companionship now
We are never alone. Always companioned by good, constructive, and satisfying ideas, we can move forward confidently, expecting to see the reflection of good in every thing we think and do. Go ahead. Express Love. Be kind to the next person you meet. Write that letter of gratitude to an old friend or mentor. Offer to help out your neighbor. Love, companionship, and satisfaction are right where you are.



For more background on Christian Science, read the book Science and Health with Key to the Scriptures by Mary Baker Eddy online or purchase here.

the natural nature of companionship

Spiritual resource to share: companionship

I just had an "aha!" about relationships. From the book of Genesis, we read that "...God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them."

It has struck me that male and female were created at the same time. So then I reasoned that we are created in relationship already. Having relationships to one another is our natural state.

This is echoed in the first two words of the Lords Prayer that starts out: "Our Father...." This shows that we share a common heritage with others. It also points out that getting our relationship to God - our Father - right, lays the groundwork for getting all of our relationships right.

It is characteristic that Life -another word for God- demands expression and part of that expression is in relationship to others (kind of like John Donne's "No man is an island...."). We, created in the image and likeness of God (who is Life), naturally reflect engagement, companionship, as well as thinking, moving, laughing, connecting.

I remember asking this question long ago when I felt quite alone. I was encouraged by MBEddy's idea from Science and Health "Would existence without personal friends be to you a blank? Then the time will become solitary, left without sympathy; but this seeming vacuum is already filled with Love."

It was a solitary time, but I got to feel a whole new concept of God as Love. There were mornings where I woke up feeling loved. This became the basis for all the new friendships that developed after that experience. It helped me to see that my happiness was not so much dependent on another person as it was about my relationship to God. But this relationship to God had a very active expression: in relationships with others.

Again, getting my primary relationship to God right, then became the basis for many lasting friendships and family relationships that followed. Wonderful, yes?







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